And Baby (Emily Anne Lewis) Makes Four!

"There will be a few times in your life when all your instincts tell you to do something, something that defies logic, upsets your plans, and may seem crazy to others.  When that happens, do it.  Listen to your instincts and ignore everything else.  Ignore logic, ignore the odds, ignore the complications, and just go for it." ~Judith McNaught

And here we go again.....On December 12, 2016 at about 4:00 p.m. our adoption social worker (shout out to Amy B.)  messaged me about an urgent baby situation.  There was a baby girl born the day before in Georgia and they were looking for an adoptive couple.  We immediately said "YES!".  So that evening I booked a flight, hotel and rental car and packed my bag.  I left Wichita the next morning.  My first flight was delayed so by the time I made it to Dallas, I had missed my connecting flight.  I had to sit at the Dallas airport for almost 7 hours.  I finally made it to Chattanooga, but still had to drive over an hour to Rome, Georgia.  I also got pulled over for speeding but used a precious little baby as my excuse....and I got off with a warning!  I got to my hotel a little before midnight.  I got to my room and pretended to sleep for a few hours.

I got up and headed to the hospital.  I found my way to the NICU.  I met with the social worker and she took me to meet my daughter.  I spent the morning loving on this sweet baby girl.
Emily Anne Lewis
Awkward pic by nurse!

Bonding!


After lunch, I got the opportunity to spend time with Emily's birth parents.  Oh the emotions, the heartbreak, the love.......





Just a little hospital selfie!


So what was Brady doing during all this excitement???  He was back in Kansas with Samuel (age 2) and our foster baby "I" (age 7 months).  We did not want to put "I" in a respite home, but couldn't just leave the state with him (for some reason they call that kidnapping).  Brady got approval to take "I" out of state and headed to Tennessee with the boys on December 16th.  Then Brady and I switched places a couple of times with one of us being in Tennessee visiting family and the other in Georgia with Miss Emily.
Meeting her daddy!

crazy hair, don't care


1st Christmas


Brady is now back in Kansas because "I" had to be back for some appointments and so he could attend Emily's finalization hearing.  Emily and I are still in Georgia and will be here at least until early next week. We can't wait to be back in Kansas with our boys!


Every Adoption Story is beautiful but ours is my favorite!

Love,
  The Lewis Family

This Mama's Heart

I am not afraid to grieve.  I am afraid of what would happen to these children if no one took the risk to love them.

This mama's heart is hurting today.  Our first trip through foster care land has come to an end.  Sweet baby M went to live with a family member.  This was not an unexpected move, though sometimes I let myself believe that it would not happen. This case has been a crazy roller coaster.  In the last 7 months, this sweet baby filled a void in my heart that had been aching for years. She will forever hold a special place in my heart. As I made her a picture book to take with her, I wanted so desperately to share them with the world. Her smile fills her whole face! We pray that she has a safe and happy life.......




Introducing Mr. Samuel

God's plans will always be greater and more beautiful than all your disappointments

On August 15, 2014 at 2:30 our adoption lawyer called Brady.  A birth mom had looked at our profile and picked us!  Great.....when is she due?  She gave birth yesterday and is ready to sign over rights....could you get to the hospital by 4:00.  Brady called me.  I was on my way to pick up our 7 month old foster daughter from day care.  In and hour and a half, I picked her up called some friends and got her situated at a friends house so we could get to the hospital.  I am so thankful for my friend that I can call and say "hey I need to go pick up another baby, can I drop M off at your house" and without blinking an eye she says yes!  We made it to the hospital a little before 4:00. We met with our attorney and did a little bit of paperwork.  Soon after, this little bundle of joy was placed in our arms!

Meet Samuel D. Lewis
Brady's Birthday Present

Born August 14th weighing 7 lbs 1 oz and 20 inches long


On September 9, 2014 his adoption was finalized.  Our happily ever after!

At the courthouse with our amazing attorney!



Love,
  The Lewis Family

Watch out Kansas

Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith- Margaret Shepard

This is not a long or big update. On Friday we had our final walk through with St. Francis.  We had no issues.  Our worker mailed our paperwork off the same day.  We should have our temporary foster care license in about 30 days.

Interrupted

"Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you." James 1:27


In previous posts I had discussed that Brady and I had taken a 10 week course to become foster parents and then decided to do nothing with it. Well recently this topic has come back up again.

Each year my work pays for me to go to the Governor's Conference for the Prevention of Child Abuse and Neglect in October.  I go there thinking I will sit through 3 days of boring CEU's.  I walk in to my first class and see a girl that I knew from WSU.  I sat by her so we could catch up on the last 4 years. She talked about how she works at St. Francis now. I told her about how we did our PS-MAPP class but never got licensed.  She then took the next 2 days to try to convince me that we need to get licensed.  Did not work....

The on November 4th our church participated in Orphan Care Day.  I helped out with some of the activities.  The videos and fliers really pulled at my heart strings......but I convinced myself, nope not for me.

In December, my small group did a study from Jen Hatmaker (I have a total lady crush on her) called Interrupted.  It was all about how can God interrupt your lives.  The whole time we were doing this study, the thought of foster care kept coming up in my mind.

Brady and I went home to Tennessee for Christmas.  Our usual 10 hour drive took about 12 1/2 hours.  Since we had so much time in a car we discussed foster care at length.  We decided that when we got back to Kansas we would call St. Francis and get the process rolling.

At the end of January, they came out and we did some paperwork and they walked around and checked stuff in our house.  They gave us a list of things to change or get inspected.  After getting this list I wanted to change my mind again....but my dear husband talked me off the ledge.  We started working on our list this weekend. Our goal is to have everything ready in the next couple of weeks. 

We have no idea what we are doing.  A part of me does not want to be "interrupted". Once again prayers would be greatly appreciated.

Frequently Asked Questions

I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.
- Douglas Adams

After my last post I got a lot of questions, so I thought I would answer some of the popular ones.

1. What can we do to help? Honestly, praying for us would be number one.  Number two, would be to keep your ears open about any possible adoption opportunities.

2. Are you interested in using a surrogate?  Right now the answer is no.  When we discussed other ways to bring a baby in to the world, this came up but I did not get excited about it like I did adoption.  I am not saying we would never go this route, but it is not something that I want to venture in to right now.

3. Have you considered embryo adoption? Until many people brought this up, I had never even heard of it.  I did some reading about it and my answer would match the one about surrogacy. I am so glad you brought this up though because it was an option I did not even know was out there!

4. Why am I just now hearing about this? Well the simple answer is that Brady and I are really private people.  We are not ashamed of this journey.  I have to admit part of it was that I did not want people looking at me with "sad eyes" or constantly asking me if I was pregnant yet. We had family and a couple of friends that knew and we felt that was enough.  Initially it was our lawyer that encouraged us to go public in order to find a baby faster.  Also, another friend in the middle of the adoption journey told me it could be therapeutic.....so there you go!

5. Why are you giving up so quickly? I re-read my last blog and I did not see where I mentioned giving up.  We do not feel like we are giving up.  One has to remember that I gave you the short story through fertility treatments because no one wants to sit through over 3 years worth of appointments, drugs and disappointments. Our decision to adopt gave me a new sense of hope that I had lost in the last 3-4 years. I am pretty sure I have read a million blogs and books and articles about adoption.  It gave me something to look forward to when those tests came back negative each month.  Our story is just beginning. And when our story ends with a beautiful baby in our arms, we will give Him all the glory.    

Hopefully, I answered a lot of questions.  If not, ask away and it will give me something to blog about :)

Lewis Family Update

Hi Everyone!

It has been a long time since I have blogged.  I started this post on July 29th.  I had it all finished and I was just waiting for Brady to get home from Italy to proofread it.  Well before he got home some things happened and this post became irrelevant. Now, 4 months later, I am ready to publish this story.

The post was a detailed story on our journey to become parents.  I am going to give the highlights and not very specific details because it is a long story that has a lot of heartache in it.  We started fertility treatments in 2010.  After a year of drugs and lots of doctor appointments, I got pregnant.  I miscarried at 10 weeks. After taking a few months off to grieve and let my body heal, we started trying again.  After 7 months, I was pregnant again...only to have another miscarriage.  After that miscarriage, we did some genetic testing.  Nothing serious came back, except for my blood clots faster than it should.  We were told what we would have to do carry a healthy pregnancy. We started up fertility treatments once again.

During this time we felt like we needed to pursue other avenues.  We took a class to become foster parents.  We finished the class but never got licensed.  I had many fears about doing this...the main one being that foster care is supposed to be a temporary home for children while their family gets the help needed and heals.  I was not sure my heart could take getting attached to another child only for them to leave my home.

Private adoption seemed like it would be a great option for us.  We talked to a few of our friends that have adopted.  From there we submitted our paperwork to an agency and two adoption lawyers on July 30th.

Remember I said I started this blog post on July 29th?  Well this is where our world turned a little chaotic.  On July 30th I dropped Brady off at the airport so he could go to Italy for work.  I then delivered our adoption paperwork to the designated offices. On July 31st the adoption agency called and told me that a birth mom saw our profile and wanted to talk to us over the phone.  I talked to her on the 31st.  Brady returned on August 3rd and birth mom signed adoption agreement with us on August 5th.  Birth mom was due on August 18th.  Friends and family rushed to help us get everything we needed done in less than 2 weeks notice. On August 16th I had a phone call with our social worker and birth mom.  She talked about being tired and ready to give birth.  She had a doctors appointment on the 19th and they were going to schedule an induction at that point.  Her appointment was at 11:00 in the morning so I clung to my phone knowing she would be calling soon.  No call came.  I then started calling our social worker and lawyer with no success.  It was not until the next day that I was able to talk to our lawyer.  He said the sentence I had been fearing for the past 24 hours, "She has changed her mind". Once again we had lost another baby.

So here we are almost 4 months later. The purpose of our first post was to get the news out that we wanted to adopt and ask for your prayers as we go through this journey and second if you know anyone that is pregnant and considering adoption to send them our way!