Frequently Asked Questions
I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.
- Douglas Adams
After my last post I got a lot of questions, so I thought I would answer some of the popular ones.
1. What can we do to help? Honestly, praying for us would be number one. Number two, would be to keep your ears open about any possible adoption opportunities.
2. Are you interested in using a surrogate? Right now the answer is no. When we discussed other ways to bring a baby in to the world, this came up but I did not get excited about it like I did adoption. I am not saying we would never go this route, but it is not something that I want to venture in to right now.
3. Have you considered embryo adoption? Until many people brought this up, I had never even heard of it. I did some reading about it and my answer would match the one about surrogacy. I am so glad you brought this up though because it was an option I did not even know was out there!
4. Why am I just now hearing about this? Well the simple answer is that Brady and I are really private people. We are not ashamed of this journey. I have to admit part of it was that I did not want people looking at me with "sad eyes" or constantly asking me if I was pregnant yet. We had family and a couple of friends that knew and we felt that was enough. Initially it was our lawyer that encouraged us to go public in order to find a baby faster. Also, another friend in the middle of the adoption journey told me it could be therapeutic.....so there you go!
5. Why are you giving up so quickly? I re-read my last blog and I did not see where I mentioned giving up. We do not feel like we are giving up. One has to remember that I gave you the short story through fertility treatments because no one wants to sit through over 3 years worth of appointments, drugs and disappointments. Our decision to adopt gave me a new sense of hope that I had lost in the last 3-4 years. I am pretty sure I have read a million blogs and books and articles about adoption. It gave me something to look forward to when those tests came back negative each month. Our story is just beginning. And when our story ends with a beautiful baby in our arms, we will give Him all the glory.
Hopefully, I answered a lot of questions. If not, ask away and it will give me something to blog about :)
Love that quote at the beginning. I'm so stealing that. :)
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Obviously I didn't know, but despite the blow that this journey must be for you I know that for you two there is a plan. I know that there is this perfect little one somewhere that well come to you at the perfect time and complete you like you never thought possible. I have a friend that adopted after years or trying everything and within 2 years after they welcomed their first biological child into the world. God works in mysterious ways. Praying for you my old friends!